You’re getting caught up in that tunnel vision way of thinking again. Stop jumping to conclusions before you have the whole picture. What I see you doing is throwing a plain hook into the water, then complaining about why the fish won’t bite. You have to include a bait and you’ve not done so.
I think your wife is leery about taking the bait because she has past sexual abuse issues. It seems that her high activity level could be a way for her to occupy her mind, force out emotional thoughts and avoid your pursuit. It gives her a convenient, guilt free escape by devoting herself to her kids.
There are a LOT of women who do this very thing, my wife included. Bringing up the lack of intimacy and desire will not get you anywhere because the whole reason for their lifestyle is to avoid intimacy and desire. You will never get past this roadblock until your W can confront her avoidance and what it is she is running from. Can you understand what I am saying?
If you want to help yourself, you will have to help us. GEL ask you what you have done to discuss this issue with your W. I have asked you about her past sexual abuse. You can stay on this board and gripe about your sitch, or you can provide some more information that we can help you with to get things moving forward. Your call.
