Things seemed good as of last night. I took the evening for myself and will give him some alone time tonight.

I went to the bookstore and looked for some books recommended here (on the Super Success Stories thread). I read most of the Lou Paget book about how to be a great lover. I liked the style and would recommend it for other women. It gave me some good ideas for how to make simple things (like applying lubricant) a sexy act in and of itself. Upon reflecting, I can see that our sex life may not have been too bad in terms of frequency or actual outcome, but I don't do enough to make him feel really GOOD about himself. I am probably a little too brutally honest at times (that tickles, watch your beard, etc.)

I heard about a couple celebrities that do 500 crunches in a day and I said, "I wonder if I can do that." Joey didn't think I could, so I proved him wrong! I spread them out, but I did it! He came and whispered in my ear at one point, "Watching you do this is making me want to f%&# it!" I probably didn't respond as he would like. (I missed an opportunity here, but I am trying to get at the root of what brings out MORE SEXUALITY in me, rather than closing it off.) I said, "you want to f@#% *IT*?" He responded like that was just a word, not a big deal, but I'm trying to get him to see things from my point of view. I LOVE it of course, that he finds me exercising sexy, but I don't like certain words, phrases, actions. They turn me off and he has quite a few of them. Over the years, I would tell him or just kinda roll my eyes (mentally) and try to ignore. But since he has made our sex life such an issue, I think it's time we both address these kinds of things.

I did so many crunches I rubbed a spot on my butt RAW! lol!! \:o I feel leaner and when I feel confident about my body, I am more likely to feel sexual with him.

**zuzu**
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