AN,
I am probably the last person qualified to post here, but FWIW:

Run, RUN FAST, RUN AWAY, RUN ON EMPTY, RUN SMOOTH, RUN SILENT, RUN DEEP, BUT RUN!!!!.

I suggest that you re-read the entire thread(s). The whole story is glareingly clear to all who read it (to me at least). You have gotten the very best advice here.

Based on your side of the story, this woman is POISON. Her reactions to your attempts at regaining control of YOUR LIFE tell the tale. She at first, acts angry when you begin to set limits then manipulative when you stand by them (sort of, she sees a crack in the wall here), then, all of a sudden, soft and placating (trying to breech the gap more and regain control).

I agree with others on this board when they say, if you give her the chance to get her foot in the door she will be the perfect mate up to the point that she feels she has regained control. THen it will all come to a screeching halt. By then it will be too late. You will be married and/or have given her a stable base to operate from as she seeks out greener pastures. Make no mistake, she will.

I also agree she is prob looking for a replacement. Just a hunch. Regardless, she is absolute poison to you.

You work out, stay fit, take care of yourself. You are giving and compassionate. You are open to communicating to your mate and offer intamacy that a lot of men are unable to give. You are in touch , to some degree, with your emotions and able to put voice to them. There are PLENTY of other women who wouldbe greatful to find a man like you. Women who are also looking for the same thing as you. Women who bowhunt.

Come on man, Dont do this to yourself. It is hard to break it off because it is an admission that we made a mistake or that we can not be "what she needs". This can feel like a failure.
But what she REALLY needs and what you ARE are two VERY VERY diifernet things and that is a VERY VERY GOOD THING.
She needs to grow up, YOU are grown up. She needs to get a grip, YOU have a grip. She needs to accept responsibility for her life, YOU are a resposible individual. YOU can NOT fix HER!!! Nor should you try. It is NOT YOUR JOB. She needs to fix HERSELF.

Cut bait AN, Get out now and minimize the damage. My guess is that the drama is just begining and the sooner she is gone the less there will be.

Please know that I am no expert, and your milage may vary. I am also going to ask for fogivness ahead of time for my presumptive attitude here. I just ACHE because I see so much of me in you.