everyone needs a little ego hug every now and then
mimi... Like I said...only you can decide how long to wait but standing is definitely in order and who ever said it before said it best...standing doesn't mean standing still. I stood for as long as I could but the whole time I was growing and changing things about myself that I needed to change for me. You need to own your own behavior in your marriage. You can use this time to really look deep inside yourself and find the things that need to be changed and then change them. the changes are for you...not for your spouse or your marriage but for YOU...to make you a better person.
My marriage didn't survive (but LSS is special case) but I did!!! I am much healthier and happier than I have ever been. I am able to see blessing in my life everyday and my life and my boys' lives continue to get better and better every day.
Perhaps I needed to have this happen in order to propel myself forward into a better place....who knows but I do know that once I decided to stand for me, there was calm amoungst the storm and I could actually feel mysefl growing.
