trying to hold out

[Dr LOve]

OK
Here is my current problem, has anyone ever heard of the saying:

I felt sorry for myself because I had no shoes until I met the man that had no feet?

Well I may be stupid but since I have joined this community and found a really good friend here, I understand why some people need others to talk to that are not connected to the sitch. I have found someone here that I can talk to and say things to that I could asks questions to that I could not ask my W because it may hurt my W feelings or my W may take it to personal.
Soooo in a way by coming here are we all not having an emotional affair with each other? (With this big of a group it’s really an emotional orgy).
I don’t have a problem with My W having a close friend that she can talk to as long as she feels she can come to me and say the same things. Now HAVING SEX is out of the question and ends all deals. But my point is that I want is an open “communication” marriage.
Sometimes you need someone to vent to, to say things you really don’t mean but it’s in your mind and after you say them out loud do you realize how stupid it sounds.
Anyway I have a lot of thinking to do today its 9 hours and counting until we see the councilor. I’m not sure if I will bring up the fact that I don’t mind her calling the OM. In fact I would like to talk to him, Ask him what he thinks I need to do to win her back. After all he is married. He has a lot to lose if things continue on the same course. I don’t know I’m so confused…..