You mentioned the EA with PT. Has she mentioned how he felt, if they have discussed anything regarding relationship etc.
I did ask my W about her EA, and she told me that she was interested but they have not discussed R and she does not know how he feels about her. Her stories change from really "liking him and wanting to be with him" to "he knows my situation, and that I am not looking for a relationship".
I must admit, I reckon she is pursuing him. Maybe she should read DR to improve her chances with him
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."