It actually showed up as friendfinder. That particular company owns at least twelve other "friend finder" type websites....not all of them are billed undre "friendfinder" but they are similar. Do you have something that looks questionable on a bill? If so, what's it showing as?
That is one thing at least I don't have to be concerned about. He doesn't know how to use the computer much other than the bare minimum. He doens't even know how to send emails or text messages (thank goodness) so that's a plus
As for the bills, I am expecting to find "something" but I know I can handle it.
He went to the C today and I don't know what they talked about because he didn't say anything about his visit with him - which is strange because he usually tells me pretty much everything about their talks. My guess is C might have said something to him about "what are you doing to help your W" and he doesn't want to get into that (for obvious reasons). C also wants us to take some type of questionnaire thing that has been designed by psychologists to find out if people are compatible - that should be interesting.
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
That questionnaire would be interesting. Our MC never had us take anything like that, never even metnioned one. I thin the only compatibility tests I've taken have just been for fun...based on your zodiac LOL. Not quite the same thing huh?
Here's hoping you get those bills in the mail soon so you can put any doubt/fears/confrontation behind you.
I remember taking one quite some time ago but this one the C is talking about sounds like it is a quite a new thing and has been developed by a panel of psychologists - so it should be interesting
Maybe I could make it available to you guys IF he gives us a copy of it to actually fill out or something. I don't know if its a verbal questionnaire or written so I guess we will see on Friday when we go.
Yes, it will be nice to get those bills in. I know the cell phone bill (the primary one I am wanting to see) should be in some time next week - so not too much longer, not sure about the credit card
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Well, today was a pretty good day. My students are in their practicum so, except for a few phone calls I had to make, I had the day off - so did H. We went out for tea this morning and met up with a couple of the "guys" and sat around chatting for a while. Then we left there and went to the garden centre to pick up some soil and some tomato cages. Got home, worked in the garden for a couple of hours and then sat on the deck and had a cold drink. Later we grabbed some fish and chips and came home.
H has to work tonight so he had to hit the sack early. When he was going to bed he said "I really like our home, its cozy".
He said "I don't know what it was about that other city, it was like there was something evil there". It's weird, he has said that a couple of times in the last little while (referring sometimes to the OW as being "evil") Then he said "I never want to go back there - "there" being the deep state of depression he was in (he refers to it as a "black hole")
We moved from a much larger home to be closer to family and friends after the A, and to deal with H's depression and post traumatic stress due to our car accident so we had to scale down to afford this place. It's ok because the other house was too big anyway and this is more "us" and we absolutely love the backyard/garden.
I told him I was glad that he felt better here and he said "this is all we need" (in reference to the house being smaller and then he said, "and besides, we have each other and that's all that matters" - that in itself made my heart swell
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
That's great, it appears to me he's making attempts to become closer to you. My H, within the last year in particular, has made comments like the one you mentioned. Interestingly enough just a few weeks ago he seemed to be looking for assurance that I would have married him regardless of our son (he proposed to me the night after I told him I was pregnant....he had already bought the ring and was planning on it though.) Out of the blue he said to me "You would have married me anyway....wouldn't you?" To which I responded, of course I would have, which was the truth.
Now, had I known about his whore/madonna issue (or recognized it) back then...I would have insisted it was addressed prior to marriage, but hey...that's not how it worked out. At least things are good now :-) I really believe things will work out well for you two as well.
"this is all we need" (in reference to the house being smaller and then he said, "and besides, we have each other and that's all that matters" That was a very nice comment your H made.
Yes, I am feeling quite optimistic at this point and I don't want to spoil it but at the same time I will be cautious for a while yet. As a matter of fact, I don't know if I will ever let my guard down completely ever again. But, maybe that's a good thing. It will keep us both in check
Looking back and knowing what I know now, its hard to say whether I would have jumped so quickly into this R. But, regardless of what we have been through (and I am sure there is still lots to come) I very much love the man. He is truly a wonderful person and as much as I don't condone what he did, and never will, I don't imagine what he has had to go through all these years has been very pleasant either. I sometimes feel it was just meant to be. Maybe I was the only woman strong enough to be able to put up with all this crap, not "abandon" him (like he says about the others in his life) and help him to heal some very deep scars.
His opening up in little tidbits is encouraging and I think he might actually be learning what real love is all about
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
