I am so glad I found your thread it has made things in my sitch so much clearer. I may have a D looming in the near future for H is very detached from me at times and has said to d that he just can't live with me.This is a man who 3 months ago wanted to come home again.
Well after a yr and for the last 6 months he has made contact on a regular basis I find this hard to deal with. So maybe I need to listen to PL and let go. Maybe I do need to see this as a door opening to a future of someone who will love me for who I am not who I can't be.
I have not posted here much for I got no response on my thread but I was in a major whining mode at the time. Need to focus and on me and not him, thank you for waking me up all of you.
I am confused on how much contact to have with him if he is having contact with me. He emailed me this week. He called 2 weekends in a row. He did this back in Jan when he got close and then ran. But today d told me that he cries when she sees him and she says he sits at home crying, what would be the appropriate thing to say to him to ease him into talking?
A yr ago he wanted a D had a L and everything before he left. He has not filed but I feel it in my gut that he will very soon.
read my thread if you can, tell me I am losing it totally this time around. thanks and AH you are inspiring me to stay strong and look ahead. I too think my H is paralyzed with fear. Fear of making the wrong choice and having to live with it. hb2
m24 yrs h 50 me 47 s 21 s 17 left 5-30-06, and 12-4-06 still gone.............
