Matilda and Jak, I watched the "Prince of Tides" on DVD over the weekend. In this movie, the protoganist Tom, goes to New York to meet with his sister's psychiatrist to help her piece together a family background. Tom is disconnected from everything in his life (a MLC), due to a troubled upbringing. He ends up having an affair with her. The affair helps him to reconnect with lost parts of himself, and to experience love and being loved. He takes this experience, and realizes that he needs to take his love back home to his W and daughters.
My W seems to be showing more gratitude for the positives in her life. She is grateful for our home, and my loyal support.
Her annual review went much better than she expected. Her boss had many positives to say about her. Her boss is cranky, so it was hard for my W to know that she was valued. This should take much pressure off of her. This will take away the urgency of making a job change.
She called me today, and is getting ready to make a commitment to quit smoking. I've done a 180 on this topic. I used to try and influence her to take medication or go to support groups. I've realized that she has to quit on her terms, at her pace, in her own way. The way for me to help the process is to work on my own happiness, work on our friendship, and assist directly if she asks.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
