CL it is very interesting that when you created mystery she wanted to know where you were. Good sign! keep thinking of things to create that mystery be vague, it has worked for me.

COuld it be that your wife would take a differant job if it weren't what she is going through right now. That she thinks she really doesn't need more upheaval right now things are very confusing for her. You are being very supportive thats great, especially while creating mystery because it still lets her know you are interested in her life but that you can live without her.

Great job!
jak

You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez