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Do you really think he is flying through this pretty quickly?
I can't say overall. It just seems that he is rushing this relationship part...be relieved. Many dilly dally around. You don't want him to take his time getting to know her.

And if he asks what you would do if he moves in with her...

"Go ahead, I think that would be the ebst thing. I don't think you should wait. I mean you might as well get it going so it can die."

Okay, so you don't have to add that last bit...but I would. I told Sweetheart I wish he would just "bang the bithch and get it over with." Not the greatest language, but I meant it and knew that was how it would pan out. Oh, they will get stuck together for awhile...months to a few years even. Sweetheart, if he stays home and continues his recovery, had what I would call a fast MLC...and it's been two years--18 months of OW back-and-forths. But that's fast in MLC.

He moved in with the OW three weeks after moving out. I was glad because I knew it would end faster. Burn fast, burn out.

That drinking eposide you described also distrubed me...since you said he'd never even been drunk before. He's flying right now. that doesn't mean you will see improvement. It means you are going to get scared as he spirals downward at a rapid rate...cause it's bound to get worse.
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I have tried not to fight with him but it does not always work.
Really? And what do you mean by it hasn't worked. He got angrier? He continued ot bait you. He got upset because you wouldn't argue and accused of being a goody goody...

Consistency is key here. Often what is working is what you will think is a backfire. They will continue to push your buttons to find the breaking point. Eventually, they will look for someone else to bait when they can no longer argue with you.

Sweetheart began arguing wtih his brother's wife...she became evil--she's one of my best friends, we talked about his tantrums with her quite abit. He appeared all sweet with me and told me he thought she was bipolar due to mood swings and anger--projecting.

Be concisten, because he's going to try to show that whatever you are doing or your changes are not real...because you cahnge again according to his behaviour. It's all a test.

HUGS,
RCR