Kissak, as far as the date. The choice is always yours but if you truly want to save your marriage then act as if you are married. going out is very tempting but it opens doors that are incredibly hard to close later on. Even if your H acts like it wouldn't bother him don't buy it. It will bother him a lot. They say they don't mind because they think that it will make them feel less guilty. It might but only temporarily.

Also, don't get involved with someone else's life until you have figured out your own. It isn't fair to you or to them. You have only been at this a very short time. I strongly recommend that you don't date. Take time to get yourself to a place where you are much more stable emotionally. And don't tell me you are because I know how long this process takes and you have only just begun. You need to get to a place where you don't feel like you have to have a man in your life to feel whole. Get to where you not only believe you can survive alone but you Know you can survive alone.

ST

At the bar the Judge will not look us over for medals, degrees, or diplomas, but for scars. - Hugh B. Brown