I don't think it's a matter of not being honest.... my guess is because of your past and your sensitivity, she doesn't want you to blow this up into something completely out of porportion (like you're doing!).
Another thing... I've learned that no one wants to have something completely meaningless, and totally exaggerated held over their head. I never understood this until I experienced it myself. I don't think that's a matter of deceit, but trying to keep something totally unimportant and meaningless from becoming a ridiculously blown up problem.... something that never should have gotten there, something that has no merit...
Now if it were a money issue, like her hiding money, or having a daily lunch date alone with some guy at work... well that would be something else... But a bunch of women watching a stripper!!! Well, I'd rate that at about the same emotional level of Bunko!!!!!
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