One interesting thing from SO - he's said over & over that I should leave my stuff there until I find a place to live. IMO, it has something to do with OW. I get that from some of the things he's said about her. I could be wrong, and I don't dwell on it - just a feeling I get. That it's some kind of "excuse" he's using with her to NOT move forward with their R. Does that make sense? Who knows, I could be way off, but that's how it comes across to me. (And, right now, since thinking about it, it doesn't bother me so much to leave the stuff there for now. If it becomes a problem, I can get it out in one day.) And NO, I've never asked about OW. He's brought things up to me on his own, with me responding (I hope) with a sympathetic & compassionate ear.
Could be why OT thought you were trying to manage their R
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