How is it that you think I'm trying to manage his R with OW? Quite frankly, my "stuff" being in the house doesn't make a damned bit of difference in their R either way. Given his lack of consideration & respect for me while I was living in the house, now that I'm gone she's been there. And he has told me she's been there. I don't know how often, nor do I ask. It's none of my business. I made sure to take everything that was "personal" of mine that I wouldn't want anyone privy to; and the rest of the stuff is down in the basement still in boxes from the last move. The kids rooms are pretty much the way they were when we lived there, but those are the only 2 rooms upstairs and he's got the upstairs closed off. And if OW really wants to go up there and look at the kids things, well, then let her.
I really didn't think my decision to be lazy and not move the stuff more times than I have to was trying to micro-manage his R in any subconscious way. I really thought it was just me being lazy. It's not bothering me; not bothering him, so what the hell. Leave it where it is until I can find a rental to put it in. ??
The choices he makes about his R with her are "HIS" choices. Whether she stays there overnight or visits or how he moves forward with that R. And, if he wants my stuff out, trust me, he'll tell me to get it out.
And, BTW OT, I'd stick my tongue out at you, but they seem to have deleted my favorite smiley face!
