Well guys, since relocating out of the Nuttiness City Limits, I've not got much to report. At least nothing over the top that used to made my stories interesting. LOL

I don't deal with all that craziness on a daily basis anymore, so not so much too say.

I still haven't found a rental. \:\( Although I have found a sense of calm. No happiness yet, but working on it. SO still contacts me all the time. I have gone over to his place (minus the kids, just "us") twice now. Once last week, once the week before. We hung out, ate dinner, watched movies & TV. Once at my request (I needed to get summer clothes for me & the kids); the next time he asked me.

He did ask me to come over last night - with the request coming yesterday morning and I declined. For several reasons. I think it got him wondering as I believe he completely expected me to say yes and when I didn't jump he kept asking if he'd done something wrong, etc, etc.

So, that's going slowly. Which is all right by me. (Didn't they used to say around here Slowee, slowee - catchee monkey or something like that??? For all you "oldtimers"!)

The first time I went over, he was Mr. Octopus. I almost ended up leaving becasue I was getting annoyed. Then, the 2nd time, he was the complete opposite - staying far over in a chair by himself. (see - they really do pay attention when you think they aren't.) LOL He did say that he didn't want to offend me. If anyone's seen Groundhog's Day, lol, I use that movie with him. Gotta keep trying until we get it right. That's the prevailing moral of that story. Hopefully mine, too.

On another note, he keeps postponing his meeting with the surgeon. (He did finally have a colonoscopy done.) They told him he needs surgery ASAP, with a minimum two week stay in the hospital to repair perforations in his intestines. Shrug. I ain't his momma, lol.

He's constantly asking what I'm doing, with whom, etc. Worried that I've "found someone else". I don't fall into that trap. Now that I'm "away" from him, I'm finding that I can deal so much better with him. On MY terms.

When I lived there, I couldn't see the forest for the trees. Now that I've stepped back, to use the DB term, I have completely dropped the rope. It's been good for everyone, I think. I'm more able to see the bigger picture. Identify some hot points and find solutions and work on resolving them. Our interactions with each other are so much more pleasant; relaxed, easygoing; and flirtatious.

Starting with the beginners mind. Yes, yes - I'm reading DB again!!! Felt it was time to go back and refresh my memory. Now that sitch has changed, it was time to re-read with my new perspective. It's been good. I went on Amazon (not knowing when I'd get back to the house to find my original copy of DR) and got DB, 5 Love Languages and 2 books pertaining to BPD. Lotsa reading material to occupy my nights before the Tylenol PM kicks in!!! And all four books for less than $40. whoo-hoo, I'd recommend everyone shop there first.

One interesting thing from SO - he's said over & over that I should leave my stuff there until I find a place to live. IMO, it has something to do with OW. I get that from some of the things he's said about her. I could be wrong, and I don't dwell on it - just a feeling I get. That it's some kind of "excuse" he's using with her to NOT move forward with their R. Does that make sense? Who knows, I could be way off, but that's how it comes across to me. (And, right now, since thinking about it, it doesn't bother me so much to leave the stuff there for now. If it becomes a problem, I can get it out in one day.) And NO, I've never asked about OW. He's brought things up to me on his own, with me responding (I hope) with a sympathetic & compassionate ear.

So, that's all folks. Sorry that my update may not be as interesting as they used to be. LMAO!!