Not having to deal with the military away thing I can’t relate to your sitch. But I can tell you. I had and still have my up and down days. My W had the affair, I found the pic’s I know the guy, I know where he and is WIFE live. (Out of state). What helps me is I took the power away from my W to control my feelings. I want things to work out but I am not giving her the power to decide. I have back up plans; I tell myself I’m not going to let my sitch get me down. I don’t try to pursue the OM. I don’t worry about her talking to him. She in the one with the problem not me. She has no control over me as I don’t over her. I’m going to go on. I look for things to do that I enjoys so I don’t have down time to think about the OM. I suggest you do the same. Go to the movies, start a garden. Find some friends to hag out with but don’t dwell on something you have no control over. I know its hard 4 weeks ago I was in the same place. I couldn’t eat, sleep and my job was starting to be affected. But then through support here I found others are going through the same thing. It’s great to look back and see where you where when you started here and where you are now. It’s will get better I promise.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
