it not her responsibility to show me in MY love language?
Not if she doesn't even know it's your love language. Does she even know what a love language is? Of course we do here on the BB, we talk about it all the time...we've read the books. She can't speak it if she doesn't know what one is. She can't speak it if she doesn't understand what you are really lacking. Even still..."if" she has true medical reasons to kill her libido, even if she tries to speak it...I don't think it will be good enough for you, because you won't accept that it's a real effort on her part. You want this burning desire to come from deep inside her...she can't fake that burning desire if it's not there and it's stifled or extinguished due to hormonal issues. If she tries to fake that desire to make you happy, you won't accept that...you've said so before.
It's YOUR responsibility to COMMUNICATE to her exactly what a love language is...and what YOURS is, the best place to do that is in a MC office. It's YOUR responsibility to say "Honey I want us to see a MC". It's YOUR responsibility to do your best to get her to understand. If you try to get her to "get it" via means of counselors, communication, radical honesty, and speaking her love languages to her (regardless of what she does for you)...and she still doesn't step up and meet your needs in a satisfactory manner for you...then you have a decision to make. Do you stay in a marriage where you don't receive what you need? In which case, since you are a "religious" man...you are not allowed to seek those needs outside of your marriage...since that is a sin in and of itself. OR you choose to leave the marriage and find someone who CAN meet your needs. Divorce IS allowed and acceptable for a great many reasons in MANY predominant religions...your own convictions may not allow it, but don't use your religion as the crutch not to leave if you are unhappy. That's not a slam at you either, your religion doesn't prevent you from leaving an unhappy situation....YOU DO.
