I noticed you on another thread and didn't realize that I offered advice and never returned to your thread. I usually follow up.
So now I catch up on your situation and while I'm happy that things seem headed in the right direction, I'm a little leary of the promises of a man in two relationships and very concerned about you moving on the basis of what could possibly be just words. I hope this bears out.
As an aside: I know a married guy that cheated on his wife. I imagine it was more than an EA. He would be on and off with the OW depending on who was most unavailable. If the OW tried to break it off, he was all over her with love letters, etc. If his W was leaving he'd be expressing his undying love. I'm just telling you to be wary and to believe actions...not words. He is clearly capable of blowing smoke up your a$$.
Continue to show your own strength. Don't get drawn into any drama. Protect yourself.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
