Don't get caught in up a "If I do this then she should do that" cycle either. You do things out of love for her and by meeting her languages she is shown your love. You can have you own needs and address them with her. If she loves you then, yes, she will at least attempt. But that attempt will be up to her, and the interpretations of your needs will be up to her as well and if the best of her ability still doesn't meet your minimum needs then you have to make a decision as to whether you will do without, out of love and respect, or separate and find someone who can, also out of love and respect.
