My first wife was addicted to drugs. I did not know this. She left me with a 3Mo. And 3 yr old D’s. I Never said a bad thing around them about their mother. In fact when others started talking about her around them I told them to stop. My x was seeing them as long as I also sent along money to pay for food and diapers. But when I stared sending food and diapers instead of money she started making excuses why she couldn’t see them. I started telling the 3yr old that mamma was sick today so she could not go see her. After awhile I just didn’t let my kids know what days they were to go visit until I knew for sure they were going. Finley My X just stopped calling. No matter what She is the mother of my children. I never hated her, she had problems and her living with her decision for the rest of her life was punishment enough. Your child being older knows what is going on. They don’t like being “pumped” for info. Don’t do it. If your husband does that it’s his problem. The child will know what’s going on and get tired of the questions real quick. Be the parent that they want to be around not the one that is always asking questions.
This is my advice. The only training I have is life it’s self.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
