Spent a long time reading through your thread this AM. Thanks for all the replied to mine. It is amazing how closely they resemble each other. Unfortunately, things seem to be deteriorating for you. For me, R is better, just not far enough(or fast enough) to suit me yet.
I think it sounds as though you are doing the best you can. It doesn't matter how much you want things to improve until she decides she wants them to improve.
I don't think you are acting as a "push-over". You want things to work and don't want to hit the ultimatum button yet. I've let my wife keep training with her EA. I figure that at some point she has to decide she wants me if things are to succeed. I think her fantasy may be dying out somewhat--after all he still acts like a 24yoM would.
You are taking care of yourself better than me. I'm still sticking to the Father role after work. Sounds like you are getting out and forcing her to act like a mother. I'm not forcing my wife to do so, as it is one of the things she is rebelling against. She had been a stay-at-home mom for 9yrs, and I always worked alot of hours, nights, and weekends. Figure she can have some "space" in that regard.
Keep working at it. Don't beat yourself up if you back-slide. It's hard not to--after all you are the one that still loves your spouse(and hasn't gone off the deep end).
