Why don't you list for us they why's and why nots for MLC?
Yes you have three little ones. And this will be VERY HARD whether you STAND or not. But in the end...which may be years away, what will be best for them. The two of you healed and together, or two households and perhaps step families.
I'll tell you as a stepsibling and daguhter and child of divorces since 3-4yrs old that it does damage and the pain is always there. Sure we heal...with scars. Sure I'm fine, and I would have ahad a much different childhood with my parents together. Perhaps with less counseling and disruptions at school. Less being the tennis ball. Less hearing that the check is in the mail and how my parents couldn't stand each other. Less of my Dad's girlfrineds--they just kept coming and coming...and two marriages after my Mom who was his second wife--he's still with his fourth and final wife after 20 years--whew.
You have not been in this very long at all. And you are right. You may not weather the storm. But you are less likely to weather that storm if you believe you will not.
They are all positive it is over. Some are positive two years later...and are home now.
But understand...NO MATTER WHAT this is going t be hard. There are no easy ways out.
