Our 13th anniversary is in November, but she has already said that she is going to plan a trip to Melbourne with her friends at this time. Its funny how each sitch is so different, but so similar.
I think your W was out of line with your D. My W is going through MLC and also is EA/PA with kickboxing coach (10 years younger than her), but even with all the garble that comes out of her mouth, there is no way she would ever say anything like that to our D.
You said she apologized to you, but did she apologize to D?
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."