I thought I'd posted correctly but seems I didn't. Just wanted to tell you that a very good friend's father took his life b/c he was hurting. Thing is, it really really deeply scarred most of his kids. Even his grandkids ask things like "What happened to grand-pa?" "Why didn't he want to know us?" So, it leaves a legacy of what not to do when in pain.
Since your h is not much of a model for your kids, it's even more important that YOU be there for them as a person with grace and dignity facing a terrible heartbreak and betrayal. THEY WILL FACE similar heartbreaks and setbacks, so you must model for them how to deal with it. Otherwise you model for them that pain is fatal and eternal and it is neither.
Instead, show your kids what it's like to take control over Your happiness and make sure the 2nd half of your life is what you want it to be. Doing what it takes for your life to change for the better will leave a legacy of what life is supposed to be like for your kids and their kids and their kids, and YOU.
With God as my witness, I KNOW this too will pass AND you will be happy again. Who knows? You might meet someone else...(I know that's not DB of me, but wth?)
God bless, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
