Am I going to have to get RUDE and IN YOUR FACE again? Yanni Cohanni. I am swearing off this board to get on with my life, and the likes of you keep pulling me back in.
Have you read Divorce Remedy? Have you read Divorce Busting? NO? I didn't think so.
Where is your HOPE, man? No, you cannot control the actions of others, most especially your wife. But doggone it... if you want to fight for your M, fight for it. Dam it. LEARN how to do it. It won't happen overnight. And you are going to go thru he!! in the process.
But... if you want to give up, certainly, no one, especially me, is blaming you. You are hurt, at the end of your rope, without the spunk to kick your own azz... ready to give up. Hey, I get it. BTDT. In the business world, it'd be a great reason to declare bankruptcy.
So... go over to MoJo's thread, and learn about dating after D. Hug your kitties. Curl up and surrender. (No offense to you, Mo, I am not implying you gave up. But, you know as well as I do... the challenges of this new dating world.)
I get THAT. I do. I get it completely.
No one is blaming you in the least. Seriously. In my own sitch, had I gotten anything BUT anger from my xh, my life may be different.... now. Read that thread by can't cope. Read it. Digest it. I was married to that man.
Anger is good to fuel self-determination. It does not work well when you spew it on the world. Think of your business. I can't imagine it has been all smooth sailing. I'm sure you've been on the brink a time or two... what spurred you to keep going? Did you have a vision? Did you have a determination? Did you have a rock solid fck you faith? In spite of your own personal fears? Or did you just get lucky?
