Dearest Tired - oh how I can sympathize with you about not wanting to bring up the subject because of the conflict it will cause.

I too, for way too many years, have been avoiding numerous discussions (a large percentage of them to due with sex, or the lack thereof)because we are BOTH conflict avoiders. My H also has a psychological version of ED which just compounds the issues in our lives all the more

However, just lately I have realized its not that I can't approach the subject, it is that I can't keep going on NOT approaching the subject. Our lives are much too short to keep pretending if we ignore the problem it will go away - it won't

Do you know how wonderful it would have been for my H to approach me and say "sweetheart, we really need to talk about something" - this is to do with both of you, not just YOU.

Please try and approach this subject with your wife. You might be surprised at a completely different response than what you are expecting to hear

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)