I have had an affair, and I can tell you I told my husband the same thing, the only difference is that the man was my same age.
I realize now how stupid I was, but I don't think there is anything I can do now, which kills me....unfortumately, she will continue pulling away from you until she is gone, then realizes her mistake (it took me over a year to realize what I had done)
I really don't know what to say or if anything can help....maybe grabbing her and saying...DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING????..I know I wish someone would have done that for me....even though I don't know if it would have done anything.
I can tell you, if you let her go the regret and loss that she will feel when she wakes up will be the worst that anyone would ever have to endure....if she is anything like me.
