Whore/Madonna

[Heywyre]

Yes, it would have been nice for him to tell me right away but, like you said, perhaps he was testing me (as I was testing him) to see if I would say anything first - I am glad I held out.

The fact of being on the accounts is true but in Canada we don't seem to have that much of a problem particular because we have joint bank accounts and all our bills are paid directly through there. Plus, all it would take would be a copy of the death certificate for most financial institutions to transfer the information over to the spouse. As for the house, mortgage etc. that is in both our names so that's not a problem

Being that I work in the legal field, that is one of the main things I had taken care of a long time ago, including having Wills drawn up - which was like pulling teeth but it got done

I know we aren't out of the water yet. There is still the bills when they do come in and I get to see them. If there is nothing there, great. But that won't stop me from monitoring them each month for a while. Perhaps I will every month, sometimes not at all. The whole idea is for US BOTH to get used to trusting again. I want that information to be available to me whenever, whether its next week or next year. We have to put an end to the secrecy right here and now, permanently and forever. I am still cautious that there might be something on the cell bill that is very questionable and that he doesn't want me to see but I will deal with that at the time. There is no point in me freaking out about it now.