Husband, I just wrote a long response and hit the wrong button and lost it all! I like your positive attitude. I'm very happy for you. I know it hasn't been easy on you but I think you are doing a great job. Keep doing what your doing and take care of yourself. Prepare yourself for weds. I think it's going to be difficult. I've been in therapy for years and I'm a psych student. If I know one thing for sure about therapy...It always gets worse before it gets better. I'm surprised at your counselors response about the OM. Mine told me "I can't tell you what to do but my advice would be to break all ties to the OM. You have worked so hard to overcome self destructive behaviors and to continue this relationship while I'm married is self destructive". Isn't it funny how we take the little things (like your wife buying your favorite chips) for granted until they are gone? My husband works nights (up until all this started anyway) and slept days so I would leave a short note for him telling him where I went. He said one of the 1st things he noticed was I stopped writing I love you on the note and my notes got sloppier and then I stopped leaving them all together. I had no ideal he noticed small things like that. I will be the 1st to admit the more my husband starts living his life and stops smothering me, the more I pursue him. It's so weird!!! I even initiated sex the other night which is something I NEVER do. That reminds me I have a private question about somthing that happened during it. Only a guy can help. I hope it's not too personal. I'm going to email you.
