Where do you see Heather has continued to give in to him? The problem earlier in her marriage was that both she and her H were locked in a power struggle with neither willing to give in to the other. Recently she has deescalated, and he has responded in kind - to an extent. The remaining things that he cannot give in have little to do with Heather and more to do with him.
Cobra, I don't get why you say this. Things have in fact calmed down, but only because I've stopped fighting. When you say the 'remaining things' that H cannot give....what exactly do you see him giving? I see him giving some emotionally, but as far as situational control, I don't see where he has given anything. All of the problems I've posted about in the past still exist. The difference is that I've recognized that I cannot change him, nor can I beat him. So I don't directly challenge him anymore and I've come along way with letting him get me riled up emotionally. I just don't see this as a two sided event yet.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
