It's hard not to snoop. I found out where the OM works, I have his and his wife’s home address, I have his cell Phone # and the Phone # of several Phone booths he call my W from. But all of the time I was looking for this stuff I felt miserable. Every new thing I found would bring me down a little more. So I stopped looking for him. I stopped worrying about their conversations. Anyway now I could so easily mail the photos to his home and business and make him feel pain. But what would I gain? I would have my W mad at me and probably for sure end our R. I have stopped snooping. I do have all I need. It's kind of like having a weapon of mass destruction. I'm not going to use it but I can. It is a feeling of power. However it is not the OM. It is my wife that I need to work with. SHE is the one that has to decide that what ever she is looking for can be found right her. She needs to tell him to stop calling. And when and if she does tell him and if he does not stop calling then I have the WMD.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
