I'll tell you how I've been handling it Matty...

1. No matter how insignificant the detail is you talk about with kids....it will ALWAYS get back to the other parent.

2. All I have done is speak positive of my kids mother....and they now see the difference for themselves the way she always speaks negative about me.

3. Pumping info....very hard one. You do it so fast that it is too late to say..."But it doesn't matter...never mind".

4. I just tell my kids that I am happy for their mother...and in the beginning they thought I was being sarcastic...now they know different.

5. Last thing....I can't help to just say that this was all their Mom's decision and that I did my best NOT to get D'd.....they know.

Hope it helps a little....
S15
D13

Man who walks with BIG stick!