I really appreciate your position. My intellectual side agrees with you almost 100%. I am not a jealous person by nature. I am very upset with myself about looking at the pics. Yet, I feel that for a married person to be that close to someone elses private parts is quite inappropriate. Especially while in our own home.
You are right in saying that she must have felt forced to lie because of my immediate reaction. Yet she didnt even give me the benefit of the doubt to discuss it first.
I have been to many a strip club in my day, but can never get close enough to the dancers to cause any concern. These woman had the guy hanging all over them,in some cases upside down with his goods in their face. Wearing a thong of course. In fact, since meeting my wife, I feel so close to her that I would never go do a strip club because I thought it would be direspectful to her.
As you can see, the picture it paints is disturbing and I feel she would be horrified has she seen pics of me in that way with another woman.
Eventually I will have to get over it. Right now I am longing for a single thought that doesnt have these pics in my head so I can sleep. If I get some sleep, I think it will be much easier to deal with. I will look up some of the stopping techniques you recommended.
