Thanks fiji, In all I feel a "BIT" better now that some of what was bottled up had a chance to see the light of day. The take home for me was "SHE IS CLUELESS.....Sort of" about what is going on with me. Either she truly has no idea or she is looking to other factors outside of the context of our marriage, to explain why things are the way they are. Regardless, it was a move in the right direction. Wheather or not it is just a band aid to keep the peace or truly a move to make things better only time will tell. I have been down this road MANY MANY times before. However, I am sure that I am going to go ahead and bite once more because I feel it is worth it. Just much more cautious this time around. Much more skeptical.
Question: Should she come to me for sex, and I am feeling it is just to asuage her insecurity,how best to approach telling her no. (it is just so counterintuitive for me) I really can't go down that road with her again (figuritively as well as literally due to the "wisdom of the penis" ) until I trust that she is doing it because she really wants to be with ME and not because of some insecurity issue or some misdirected sense of duty. I can always go the Viagra route but dont want to just give in and end up feeling worse for having done so later, like the next morning when she , traditionally reverts right back to her natural annoyed view of me.
