Well, Good luck to you. I wouldn't have lasted three years, I feel that true happiness was me being happy with myself. And everytime I quit showing her I wanted to fix it she would show interest. Once she showed interest, I feel into the repetative trap of her having her cake and eating it to(along with ice cream)haha. I can't say this will work for you, but I got to the point where it was now or never. Never looked more promising, and I was willing to go that route. If your not, you can not file, you need to try to completely detach 100%. If you want to be happy, then you need to make yourself happy, I let her control my emotions, it lead to fights, and it lead to me being happy. But the fighting was more than not. She had a boyfriend and untill she found out the grass was brown on the other side, and She realized what I could give her, then she gave me a chance.
I wish I could help more, but you need to be happy. What will you do to make yourself happy? the answer is not reconciling your marriage, because you can not do it on your own.
M-31 W-25 S-1 1/2 bomb dropped 9-01-06,and repeating over and over "I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be." Groucho Marx.
