You both have a good point. I think my moral compass got a little bent during the divorce. Not with my own behaviors, but what I'd accept in the people I became close with (others in separation and divorce).
Although, on the other hand, I did (and still do) try to give them logical sound advise. And I do harp on them sometimes about the stupid things they're doing. Interestingly this friend called me yesterday and admitted she has a lot of guilt. She said she feels bad about all the guys she slept with this last year and now wishes she had saved herself for this guy she's now dating. So I guess there's some hope for her. She's realizing there's a price you pay.
Fortunately I can't join her too much in her journey because she moved away. We only talk on the phone and get together once every 3-6 months so my contact with her is hugely reduced.
Thinking about it now, maybe I should have sent that card back to her. I could have just ignored what she had said and explained that I didn't feel comfortable about it (the guy is married!!!), and didn't have the time. You girls are right. I shouldn't have agonized or pussyfooted around this whole issue.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
