I am glad to hear that your brinksmanship paid off. My W said a few months ago that there is no point in trying to reconcile, as things are too far gone, so no chance of counseling helping, and so she has been carrying on with an EA (maybe PA, but I doubt it, as I believe OM is in another country).
But I've never said I want a D, only she has (three times). Now that three years of the LRT (with zilch affection from her), taking over the cooking, running a marathon, taking her and the kids to Japan, etc. hasn't paid off, maybe cold reality is the only way...
Perhaps saying that I saw a lawyer to discuss D will help already...
D here in Sweden is pretty simple: you download a form from the Internet, both sign (or one does and the other gets a note), you pay 70$ and send it in. 6 months later, unless you stop the process, you are divorced. Goods are shared 50/50 unless a prenup or similar contract exists.
I just am tired of sleeping alone (3 years now, with a bomb drop once a year) and having her receiving text messages and calls (for which she needs to hide away) on her silent ring cell phone.
Maybe one more DB phone session can help before this nuclear option enters the picture - not sure what is left though -
Great that filing for D is a possible strategy and that it worked for you.
Thanks from a raincloudy Sweden with passing showers -
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
