In one breath you say she is a free spirit and you are more by the book, then you say you want to be on the same page. Well, how can you? Yes, you used to tell each other things but that R is gone, accept that. If you are going to get back together it will be a new R. You can't have the old one back. Why? Because it didn't work - otherwise you would still be together.

There is nothing wrong with calling her to see how her weekend went but I would leave it up to her to suggest anymore getting together. She has to make some effort in this too.

Why you would want to throw in the towel and detach now is beyond me. Do you know how many people on these boards would give anything to have even one tenth of what you do?

Give it some time and stop planning out her life and yours - maybe that was part of the problem with your R right from the start. If she is such a free spirit, perhaps you are restricting her too much. Let it go.

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)