I agree that CeMar does have a tendency to read into words what he wants to hear, and that he sees things in absolutes, but I think your last post is doing much of the same. You are making an assumption that CeMar’s wife is not suppressing her desire on purpose and that it is only nature taking it’s course. You don’t know whether this is true or not. It might well be the case that she is consciously suppressing her desire, just living day to day until the time comes when the kids have moved out of the house. That would not surprise me at all since I think CeMar is doing the same.
Even if her issues are medically related, she could do something to restore her connection to CeMar if she wanted to. It might not bring her desire back, or it might only work a little. Who knows, but if she is doing nothing, or not even trying, that is a different matter. That might point toward avoidance. And that is a conscious decision by her, not nature taking it course.
If she has been sexually abused, as CeMar suspects, and she has not addressed this abuse or worked through it, then it would also make sense that she is avoiding intimacy for a reason. If this is true, the CeMar has a very valid point. The problem I have with CeMar is that he likes to play the helpless victim, whine about his sitch, and do nothing to move it forward.
She married CeMar for a reason. CeMar seems to be have a very narrow, stubborn, way of thinking. I would suspect that his wife has a lot of the same characteristics. She would have to in order to survive with CeMar, though all this is speculation on my part. So there might be a silent, P/A power struggle going on too.
CeMar, there are things you can do to understand why your wife is suppressing her desire for you, if that is truly the case. Whining about it is not one of those things. How about a little more information of her background (especially her sexual abuse and who abused her), whether she has been to counseling about this, whether you two have talked much about this, etc….
