OL, things will feel better soon. (how could they not? )
I've seen this happen to some on these boards, and it's happening to me now. I'm tired. I can't post as much as I did. Also, work is actually making some demands on my time. But I won't forget you. I'll be reading your posts.
About those papers. I don't know legally what you can and can't do. I can tell you that I've seen a lot of people on these boards worry about them, the W or H has them all filled out, or has even served them (if that is the right phrase) but the MLCer never followes up and never completes the process. That could easily happen in your case. (Hell, Divorce is hard work. I still carry the papers with me. Once I thought about starting the process, but looking at all the work I had to do, I changed my mind. :)) Even if she does follow through, it doesn't necessarily mean much. Your actions need to stay the same. GAL!!! It's about you now, friend. Take care of yourself. Detach. If you need to work through the grief and the loss, do it here or in a journal or with a friend. But know you will, you already have, come through this a winner. You've already shown how strong you are, that you'll survive.
The advice I've seen here about the papers is stall. Do't be mean, don't fight it, but don't help it along. If you can find a free lawyer, when the time comes, I think that would be a smart move. Look in the yellow pages. I think there are legal groups who help those who can't afford a lawyer.
Good luck. How's the job search going? Remember, take care of yourself, sleep, eat, find a job.
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
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