I would agree that the question is can a person live with another who loves them in a non-sexual sense and be satisfied. That is something CeMar has to answer for himself. CeMar however, doesn't look for the other ways his wife shows him "Desire". He gets mired down in his definition of it.
So, IMPO...if he cannot live in this marriage and find a way to be happy within it...then that is still HIS problem. He has removed all avenues of being happy. He uses his religion to say he cannot leave it (not saying that's right/wrong), he (as far as I'm aware) still has yet to actually TRY anything that's been suggested to him to change the situation too.
I'm not saying that the other things that are a way of showing love/desire....will ever measure up to the kind of sexual desire that CeMar is looking for. However, CeMar has such a rigid definition in his mind of what it is...that really the way things stand with her right now she hasn't got a hope in hell of satisfying what he wants.
What I AM saying is that recognizing those things as actual displays of love/desire...does help. Does it completely satisfy? No, won't pretend it does. It's a place to start though.
