trying to hold out

[jamespb75]

Husband, My W and I were seperated for three months with NO hope of reconciling, then X-mas came and we started but there was no intimacy at all. the PA was going on all along. I caught her a month later and things went really bad. Then I moved back in against her wishes and things were on and off. She told me she wanted to reconcile four different times before we finally are right now. My heart got ripped out everytime she told me she was through. She held D over my head whenever things didn't go her way or we were fighting. Untill I put my foot down and made it seem like I was ready for a D, or when I did file, that's when reality hit.

Thats the key of making it work, if there is even a 1% chance it will work, reality has to set in. The only way to do that is to follow what the book says, and try all the different techniques. Find one that works. Mine ended up being the Ultimatum, but I tried every technique before that. I went through HELL, but now it is worth it.
Good Luck!