I did mention to he before I left thatI wish I had more time. and Our yard is starting to look alittle shabby. I also have not planted our veg. garden yet. So was your date your Idea or your H. You kind of sounded skeptical in the first half of your post but in the end it sounded like you really got something our of it. Like I said before my wife did slip and say she missed her freedom. I’m not sure yet freedom from what. I have never said she can’t go somewhere. She has had girl’s nights out. In fact it was letting her have “freedom” that she took the OM to our time share and had the affair. By the way. Last night as I was passing her in the hall I said: boo did I scare you? She just laughed and said I was being a dork. I think this is good because in the past she would have just gotten annoyed with me. I sometimes think she feels a little to secure with me and does not think she has any worry about me fooling around outside our marriage no matter what she does. One time during one of our mini talks I asked her to think what if the shoe was on the foot and I was the one who was making the phone calls. She became silent and then stated she does not under stand How I can trust her. I told her because I know people make mistakes and I care. But what she didn’t say was I don’t care, go ahead and call someone. I hope I’m not reading too much into this. Tomorrow she goes to her councilor and wed. We have our first joint meeting with mine. I kind of feel sorry for her. I hope my councilor does not make it feel like WE are ganging up on her. I am not really looking at her phone calls as a problem anymore. I am looking at trying to find out where in our marriage we went wrong that she can’t get what she needs from me that she gets from talking to him. I did ask her in the past if she was happy would she have done it and she said no.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
