Give up?

[still hoping]

I posted in newcomers but in case any veterans living through H's MLC don't go there, thought I'd post here as well. H is definitely having MLC. I've decided to give up already on my M because I see absolutely no hope anymore. Anyone with the time to read through my posts, can you please read and give your advice? I have 2 young boys and am planning to move to another country soon. Want to be absolutely sure I'm doing the right thing before I leave forever.

There is a link to my first post in this post: Last post

Just to add some more info - all that he has done is unbelievably out of character for him. All of our friends have said that he is the last person they thought would ever do something like this.

As for timelines, A has now been going on since at least Nov 2005 (almost 18 months). In first post, I mentioned he went to her country on a business trip - found out it had nothing to do with business and he went to see her, supposedly to break it off but ended up falling even deeper for her and sleeping with her, although he swore on his mom he didn't. Actually, most of my first post is probably completely wrong as everything he tells me is a lie.

One slight positive is that he told friend several months ago that he can't say he'll never get back together with me, but says he just needs space to see if that's what he wants. But from all that I've learned and after so many lies, I am ready to close the door.

Sorry this is so incoherent and my posts are all over the place. Have everyone pushing me to file for D, which is what I want to do (or more likely will tell him to file). Just need you guys to help me from the DB perspective.

Thanks so much. Really desperate for good advice. Feels like I'm living last year's bomb all over again.