First of all, I want to say that this site was so helpful to me many years ago during my divorce to my first wife and I feel it is a tremendous resource for those in need.
Second, I have been remarried for almost 3 years now to my soulmate and have no doubt of my wifes faithfullness and fidelity to me. NONE.
That being said, my issue is more my own paranoia. Yet I am looking for some moral support. Here goes. I was away on vacation last week with two of our kids while my wife had to stay home due to work reasons. Upon calling her Friday evening, she was giggling and had many of our friends and female neighbors over for dinner and drinks. At this time, my wife says a male stripper was going to arrive that evening. I was so shocked I had no idea what to say. After futher consideration, I was very upset that she did not tell me about this in advance. The thought of a naked (thong wearing) guy dancing around my house tripped me the wrong way. Call me crazy.
Anyhow, upon my return home a few days later, I was stewing and had a pit in my stomach. My wife got upset with me saying that it was just a harmless, goofy night with the girls letting lose (btw we are in our early 40's) to celebrate their pending graduation from nursing school. Another interesting thing is that one would never think of MY wife doing this. Although she is not a prude. She is very well kept, motherly women(and extremely attractive).
I trust my wife without question. Yet I did find some of the pics of the evening on my computer. nothing sexually was going on, yet this guy dancing all over my wife and neihgboors, in various forms of undress as well as in some unbeleiveably athletic positions freeked me out and I cannot get the thoughts out of my head. She assures me it was all in good fun.
In her frustration with me, she stressed nothing inappropriate went on and that I should stop behaving like I am. She said it bothered her that I would think she would cheat on me and that I dont trust her. Based on the pics I saw, I beleive she has a different opinion of what is appropriate than I do.
We have an exceptional relationship and love life and my mind says to cut the crap and let it go. But those pics are stuck in my head and I havent slept in days, which only makes it worse.
Has anyone any suggestions how to get these thoughts out of my head and stop being such a woosey? Whats very funny is that I am not the jealous type nor has she ever given me a reason to be jealouos. Its just the thought of the many positions he had the girls (including my wife) in while in my living room which is horrifying me. BTW, she doesn not know I have seen the pics. She had tried to delete them but failed
