Does your husband have a history of difficulty in managing his money? And/or avoiding confrontation? Perhaps you need to sit down with him on the computer and put everything on an expense management program like Quicken. Perhaps you can set up something with the bank where they automatically deduct a certain amount from his paycheck.
Does he help financially in other ways? Do you have children together? Does he spend time with them or help in any way with them? I personally wouldn't choose to be a single parent. It's hard being a single caretaker (especially if there is more than one kid). They often lose out on participation in events, attention, etc... Even if we reduce the whole situation to dollars and cents, just having that extra spousal help is valuable
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
