trying to hold out

[jamespb75]

Husband, I read a little bit of your sitch. Your doing fine, and I see positives. I just went through it and it was the hardest fought battle I have had in my life so far. Strength is the key, detaching is the weapon of choice, but I don't think anyone can detach the way needed to fully resolve the issues at hand. Emotions play into the everyday situations, and yours are in the right place, but hers have been surpressed for the time being. They are still there, but tucked away to far for anyone to reach them. Time is of the essence, and strength is the key for survival.

My W's aunt told her after eight months of us going through our sitch, "One day it will just hit you, you will realize that you want to be with him. No one will help you realize it, it will just pop up and you will be in love with him all over again." This is from a person that went through the exact same thing with having an PA, and actually they got a D. When my W decided it was for real, It was like I saw someone brand new, like the person I married, but better. It will come but we had to actually file for a D, and start the real process for her to realize it. I hope you don't go that far, and I am not saying it will fix it. But I know that pushing and talking and pursuing them will push them away and into the arms of the other person.

SO FIGHT ON!!!!!!!!!!!!! and good luck!