I called H to tell him I might have to take our son to the hospital...his response...well let me know (he could have come home to be with son)
I had some major health issues come up with me and would have liked H to be there...but he didn't want to be and flat out told me so...
I had some financial needs that put his family at risk because when he left I had just lost my job...again, he didn't help us
Basically, I could call, son could call...sometimes he might call back, others it could be months before we heard from him...he missed son's plays at the local theater, he missed many school events, church events...when son turned 10 he asked me if I thought his dad knew he was now "two numbers" in years...being 10 was a big deal from 9...dad NEVER called....
So even with all my negatives...we did eventually reconcile...I can't say it was easy...and patience did become my mantra...you will need more then you have at all times...
