DSH, well, I am very much the same situation. i have done nothing...I am trying to be patient (a VERY hard thing to do)...Both dogs are with me as well, I am also living in our home...he lives in the batcave---in a secret location that I really do not care about...
I DO know that he is getting credit reports (he initially wanted to separate all our credit accounts because I had "cluster-f*cked the finances and he wanted to not be assiociated with me regarding finances) and the address to his batcave DOES NOT show up, so who knows what is up with that...
Anyway, enough about me....
Maybe you should wait it out, then....you don't seem to want to file for separation...if he is still depositing the same amount of money in your account and you are still able to keep up with the bills, then maybe you shouldn't rock the boat. However, I will tell you that this lasts a LONG time and patience is something that you will learn even if it is the death of you.
hang in there...if you see positives, then stick with it...who knows what is around the corner... :)...could be light at the end of the tunnel!
valentine
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
